The Relationship between Attachment Needs, Emotions, Perceptions and Behavior

 

 

Dance moves/Behaviors: Pursuing-Blaming, Withdrawing-Avoiding - (or a variation/combination of these moves)

                            

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Secondary Emotions: Anger, Jealousy, Guilt, embarrassment, etc                                  

                                 

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Primary Emotions: Joy, Fear, Sadness (hurt), Shame

                                   

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Fear that something needed is missing is the alarm that sets the cylce into motion.

Fear about our Attachment Needs: Love, Emotional Connection, Security, and Closeness

Essentially, the basis to the entire chain reaction or cycle are fears and needs: Are you there for me? Do you value me? Does my experience matter to you? Am I enough for you? Am I safe with you?

Reassurance, understanding, safety, love, or recognition are needed yet seem missing in the moment.